BATTLE WITH THE MIND & Overcoming DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY
The modern world as we know it….. Hearing more and more daily, of individuals suffering from Depression and Anxiety… Are we putting too much strain on ourselves to be successful, happy, in love, financially stable, make others happy, follow what others expect from us, and so many other demands we put on our own shoulders? Has society challenged us in ways that cause us to shut down mentally and experience Anxiety, or has it pushed us to react to decisions, we have made or things that we have seen by being depressed.
The famous quote reads: “Anxiety is the fear of the future and depression is the fear of past.”
Most people feel anxious or depressed at times. Losing a loved one, getting fired from a job, going through a divorce, and other difficult situations can lead a person to feel sad, lonely, scared, nervous, or anxious. These feelings are normal reactions to life's stress.
But, before this we need to discuss the terms anxiety and depression and how it affects us today. So, talking about Anxiety; Anxiety, is a feeling of nervousness or unease. Feeling anxious from time to time is normal. But, feelings of fear or nervousness become excessive, difficult to control, or interfere with daily life, it's called an anxiety disorder.
The SYMPTOMS to be aware of;
For Anxiety: Blushing, Excessive sweating, Nervousness, Dry throat and mouth, Trembling, Muscle twitching, Nausea or other abdominal distress, Rapid heartbeat, Shortness of breath, Headaches, Feeling detached, Loss of self-control.
For Depression: Agitation, restlessness, irritability and anger, Becoming withdrawn or isolate, Feeling hopeless, helpless, worthless, guilty and self-hatred, Loss of interest, Sudden change in appetite, often with weight gain or loss, Thoughts of death or suicide, Insomnia or sleeping too much.
This is a massive eye opener to understand that Depression and Anxiety is ever growing around us, and many people don’t like opening up about how they feel or showing their emotions, so how do they overcome such feelings without resorting to medication, and before they lose complete self-control from who they really are.
So here goes my tips for winning and overcoming the ever-growing battle with your mind:
Social media has had so many influences in our daily lives, both for positive and negative. Research has shown that when Facebook is used casually to keep in touch with friends and family it can be a useful distraction, however when Facebook is used to keep constant tabs on others or to promote a certain self-image, it can lead to a conscious effort to compare ourselves to everyone in our social network. This frequently leads to jealousy, insecurity, misplaced feelings of superiority or alternatively, feelings of inadequacy. Limiting time on social media sites like Facebook may be hard at first, but it may be one of the best things you do for your mental health.
Often, depression occurs when we wake up one day and realize we aren’t living our own dreams but are instead trying to please our parents, our spouse, our children, or our friends. Your life is yours; you are the sole creator or destroyer, no one else. If you need to set boundaries or disengage with certain negative influences in your life, so be it. Developing the courage to follow our own personal path has a way of lifting our spirits and reducing feelings of being trapped and “stuck,” two of the leading causes of depression and anxiety. Don’t look back and say the words “what if”, or “I should have”, or “I wish”, because you was too worried to do what made you happy, and was too concerned in living to please others, or too concerned what others would think.
Keeping a private diary or a written record of your thoughts can be one of the most effective ways of dealing with mood disorders. The mere act of writing down our thoughts and feelings can serve as a way of releasing emotions, and is especially helpful if we are uncomfortable expressing ourselves verbally. Often we simply feel better and less stressed after systematically sorting through our emotions on a written page.
Comparing ourselves to other people is one of the fastest ways to worsen depression and anxiety. Sure, it can sometimes push us to work harder or get motivated, but more often than not, we feel inadequate and “less than.” This is unnecessary and a tremendous waste of time and energy. I can assure you that the neighbour or friend you envy for their fancy car or huge house or perfect body has just as many problems as you, if not more. Try to focus on yourself, your own betterment, and your own life. Don’t obsess about other people.
So many depressed people feel lonely, alone, and unloved. They can go days or sometimes even weeks without having a conversation with another human being. This degree of isolation only worsens mood. The act of talking to another person, of opening your mouth and letting words come out, can lift mood instantly. Say hi to the friendly worker at the supermarket, or casually compliment someone on their outfit, or just smile at a stranger. Notice how you feel better instantly!
It doesn’t really matter if you have a small goal or a big goal or a medium-sized goal, but whatever it is, try to work towards it, day by day, little by little. A life spent wandering aimlessly and without purpose creates a sense of unease and frustration, contributing significantly to feelings of depression and anxiety. Even a goal as simple as “I want to lose four pounds in two months” is a great way to bust out of the blues. If you dedicate yourself to something that has personal significance to you, your life will have more direction and focus. Pick achievable goals that are easy to bite off and chew, and watch your mood lift over time.
People who take time out for themselves on a daily or weekly basis, whether through yoga, meditation, reading a good book, daily prayer, or even a warm bath, often feel calmer and more at peace with themselves and the world. Time out helps you to see the big picture and prevents you from letting the daily difficulties and petty squabbles of life get you down. Even if just for 15 minutes a day, quiet time can instantly transform your state of mind and helps you retain control over your life.
You have to work on your happiness,
it won’t just happen on its own
Happiness is a state of mind that takes practice, effort, and vigilance. You have to be willing to take a hard look at your life, and make changes in your own internal expectations and behaviour. Develop your courage to follow your own personal path and begin lifting your spirits and reducing feelings of being trapped and stuck.
You Deserve It!